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The lies we tell content consumers

I’ve been lied about many things during my lifetime, but my favorite lies were told when I was a child.

I was told “money doesn’t grow on trees” and that “you need to work hard to make money.”

This is, of course, 100% wrong. Money does, in fact, grow on trees, because a tree is worth money. If you chop it down into little pieces and turn them into a cutting board, it’s worth even more money.

In fact, I would argue, a tree is worth more money dead, than alive, but I digress.

This concept is called lie-to-children, sometimes referred to as a Wittgenstein’s ladder.

I was lied to about money because my brain was too small, too naive, and too inexperienced to encompass the complexities of financial systems, investment strategies, passive income, societal privilege, and economic disparity.

But we don’t just lie to children, we also lie to adults, particularly when it benefits us.

And as marketers, our most frequent lies are directed toward other adults whom we lovingly call: consumersusers, and targets.

In our defense, however, we can’t really see these adults beyond numbers on a screen, so does it really count as lying?

In any case, here are 10 of the most common lies we, marketers, tell content consumers:

1. “Your feedback is important to us” – if I get around to reading it.

2. “Clickbait equals quality content” – or a sign of a “good” marketing team.

3. “All reviews are genuine” – except those that are not.

4. “Privacy policies are here to protect you” – but primarily me.

5. “The algorithm is impartial” – it is as objective as the humans that programmed it.

6. “Download my ‘free’ online tool” – just pay with your data.

7. “I know you because I am you” – I can also see your data.

8. “Organic ‘overnight success’ thanks to a viral post” – just don’t count the sleepless nights.

9. “Product made perfectly to fit your needs” – and everyone else’s, depending on what page they land on.

10. “Look at all of these influencers that love us” – because I paid them.

BONUS LIE – “It is completely up to you whether you want to buy or not” – all you have to do is ignore all of the remarketing campaigns flooding your online experience for the next 21 days.

We’re not bad people, we’re just caught in a bad system that is putting our self-interest at the expense of your self-interest.

We’re rewarded for disrupting you (who needs stability anyway) and now AI has made it easier than ever to tweak, test, and tinker with your attention until you’re as engaged and enraged as we need you to be.

We’re also beholden to our profit-seeking stakeholders who like it when graphs go up and to the right. We have quotas to fill and commissions to reach. We are forever chasing our tails adapting to new algorithms, new technologies, and new performative “consumer protection laws.”

The business books we read are written by serious men with three names and no ethics. There are no real regulations for the marketing practices we deploy which means we are exploited and expected to sell anything to anyone.

We do not get paid enough to worry about the hedonic, over-consumption model, we’ve helped build and certainly not enough to think about its environmental implications.

You are just caught in the crossfire.

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rise and grind

“how are you going to monetize that?” I gave voice to the first thought that came to mind.

oh, you’re one of those” she said under her breath, as if I had just outed myself to a homophobe.

this micro dialogue took place 4 years ago, at a meet and greet, somewhere in London.

I hadn’t been exposed to the anti-capitalist movement to understand the “those” I was now a part of, but I smiled my smile and carried on to my next 30 second conversation.

in all fairness,
the fact that this artist chose to never show (and subsequently sell) the paintings she spent hours out of her day on, was none of my business,
I was simply wondering how she pays her bills, ’tis all.

“I don’t have a dream job since I don’t dream of labor.” is part of the discourse I see coming out of Gen Z on TikTok.

“I simply want to live my life slowly and lay down in a bed of moss with my lover and enjoy the rest of my existence reading books, creating art, and loving myself and the people in my life.”

I understand not wanting to use work as basis for identity;
I understand not wanting to work in jobs where you are overworked, underpaid and underappreciated,
I even understand working strictly out of financial necessity, with zero interest in the labor itself.

with the “great resignation” and “quiet quitting” now dominating the news cycle, I wonder if this anti-work ethos and public airing of indignation will lead to actual systemic change,
or whether we’ll simply find a way to build a bigger and better mousetrap with every coming generation.

seeing how we’ve experienced two recessions back-to-back, I can’t really blame millennials and Gen Z’ers for wanting to unsubscribe from the girlboss subscription,

I do, however, want to sound the alarm regarding a sister trend, something a little more insidious.

a rising acrimony towards discipline and goal setting.

when you finally stop to question “hustle culture” and quitting the “rat race,” you’re typically so burned out that you develop an aversion towards using any will power, regardless to what end…
you may even look down on people who are disciplined and goal oriented.

because they’re now one of those.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to spend my days as the living dead,

I have read books laying on moss beds and can tell you it’s very uncomfortable, especially when you spend more time flicking ants than flipping pages.

I’m going to prove to you that you can live a soft life and still be disciplined, if that’s something you’re into, of course.

what does a life without goals realistically look like?
hours of screen time a day, body aches from lack of movement, social and intellectual disengagement…

when I wake up at stupid o’clock to go on my runs, I carry more than my body weight, I carry my hopes and dreams, fears and failures.
I carry my discipline.

when I budget my quarterly expenses I make sure to factor in trips to faraway lands and once in a lifetime experiences,

when I sit at my keyboard, I strive to do work I find meaningful,

and herein lies the problem,
using discipline to achieve goals that are not in line with your self is taking the fast train to an identity crisis.

I rarely do things that don’t directly aid my goals in these 5 areas:
health, relationships, career & mission, finances, contribution & meaning.

goals that are consistent with my own deep inner thoughts,
goals that build on my idea of success and bring me deep inner satisfaction.

my ever-growing bucket list ensures that I squeeze the most out of my time between adolescence and menopause,
anything else is gravy.

with very clearly defined yes’s and no’s, I can always listen to my own voice.

I can say with great ease that all of my time and attention are spoken for, so please do not ask for them.
(unless both our goals overlap)

I’m doing this not because I’m a “slave to capitalism,” not for internet points or other needs of social validation.

I’m doing this for me.

I hope you’re doing this, for you too.

I’ll see you tomorrow.

today is day 273 of the year, there are 92 days remaining of 2022.

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Stuck in life, what should I do next?

what’s the first thing you do when you sit down at your desk to, officially, work?

check your emails?
go trough your news feed?
watch cat videos on youtube just to feel something?

if you’re reading this, you’re probably a knowledge worker, or a knowledge juggler as I like to call us.
aka you spend your days at the computer looking busy.

I read this article watched this video on tiktok yesterday, of this person with appropriate credentials, saying that knowledge workers spend, on average, 3 out of 8 hours a day actually knowledging.

I was shocked.
3 hours? 3 hours?? out of 8?
that’s too much.

most knowledge jugglers I know, spend their days writing emails, attending meetings, and, if you’re a woman, coming up with creative ways to censor yourself without hurting feelings egos.

all jokes aside, I’ve come to realize that a big culprit for our lack of productivity, is an ubiquitous absence of goals.

by goals I don’t mean vague dreams like “I think I’d want to buy a house in the next 5 years” but proper goals, with tasks, deadlines and accountability, the kind that would really eat you up for not accomplishing,
do we even do goals like that anymore?
especially after reaching a certain level of comfort?

it is soooo easy to become infatuated with your own work, especially the shallow kind that is easily replicable, only to realize you’ve been trading old problems for new ones.

how could it not feel like a hamster wheel?

goals are an indicator of where you want to go, how can you go forward if you don’t know which way you’re facing?

I heard Tiago Forte say this once and it really hit a string:
“take the time to define your projects or projects will define you.”

this year I’ve taken this advice to heart and have dedicated a substantial amount of time to refining my goals,
as a result, this is the most creative, focused and productive I’ve ever been,
it’s probably also good for the planet.

I’ll see you tomorrow.

today is day 250 of the year, there are 115 days remaining of 2022.

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